Neal Pollack is the author of the ballyhooed memoir Alternadad. He lives in Los Angeles, with his much-written-about family. Read more about them at his website.
Parents cannot "make" a boy into a girl or vice-versa. They can only expose their child to various cultural influences and see what takes hold. And yes, Helen, The Electric Company is available on DVD.
I'm assuming that the majority of my readers here live in New York City and therefore don't have backyards. In L.A., most houses come with jerk-off shacks.