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A Dvar on Vayishlach |
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by Phyllis Chesler, December 15, 2008 |
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Phyllis Chesler prepared this D'var Torah for the Yavne Minyan, an Orthodox, egalitarian minyan which meets once a month on the Upper East Side, and she delivered it on Shabbat, Dec 13, 2008.
Good Shabbos everyone.
I want to focus on five words in this parasha: "Vayomru: Hakizonah yaaseh et ahotaynu?" (Bereshit 34:31). This is what Shimon and Levi tell their distraught and disapproving father Ya'akov after they have rescued Dina by destroying the city of Shechem--the guilty and the innocent alike--all because its prince has kidnapped and raped their sister Dina. I translate their brief but fiery words this way: Shall we stand idly by while our sister is treated like a prostitute?
It is a question that stands for all time. The question is still here, it awaits an answer from each generation. Shall we stand idly by as women are raped-- even as we judge Shimon and Levi harshly for engaging in "overkill"? Do we stand idly by as women are forced into prostitution by dire poverty and abuse, or, like Dina, are kidnapped, forced into marriages against their will, trafficked to foreign countries and chained to brothel walls?
Am I my sisters' keeper? "Hashomer ahi/ahotee anochi?" In a sense, Shimon and Levi have answered God's question in a way far different than Cain once did.
Rape remains epidemic in our world today. Here on the Upper East Side, in other neighborhoods, and on every continent. South Africa, liberated from apartheid, has the world's highest rate of sexual violence towards women. In places like Algeria, Bangladesh, Bosnia, Congo, Darfur, and Rwanda, rape has become a weapon of war, not merely a spoil of war. I view the repeated public gang-raping of female children and women in these and other war zones as "gender cleansing." The international legal community has even decided that such rapes are "war crimes."
Still, we have not been able to do much to stop such rapes or to bring justice to the victims.
Granted: Shimon and Levi did a terrible thing, a "Ya'aakovianly," tricky thing and yet, most amazingly, they did not kill their sister because she had dishonored her family, had gone out, presumably alone (from which the Sages derive that no Jew should go out alone in a potentially dangerous neighborhood)--and yet Dina did what her great-grandfather Avraham, her grandmother Rivka, and her own mother Leah did: she comes from a long line of "Tay-tzaers."
Yes--and incredibly, Shimon and Levi did not kill the "defiled" Dina; they killed Dina's rapist instead--and, for good measure, his entire male family!
As we know, even today, honor killings are rampant in the Middle East and South Asia, mainly among Muslims, and to a lesser extent, among Hindus and Sikhs. This odious custom has increasingly penetrated the West. I'm about to publish an academic paper about it. But here, early on in the Torah, when polygamy, cousin marriage, child marriage, arranged marriage, concubinage, prostitution, and human slavery are taken for granted--this is a rather remarkable thing for Shimon and Levi to have done. Is it not?
Women were once expected to marry their rapists. Dina's brothers do not force her to marry Shechem. Once, women were advised to "keep quiet" about being raped. Shimon and Levi do not keep quiet about their sister's rape; it is their stated reason for destroying Shechem. Although progress has been made, in our time, when women attempted to have their rapists prosecuted, they were often dis-believed and not treated humanely in the courtroom, where most victims were "raped" again, this time legally. Dina is neither challenged nor disbelieved.
But Dina does remain silent, "hidden" from us. Indeed, according to Nachmanides, the Ramban, the brothers do not let Dina out again, they keep her hidden because she has been "defiled." "Hidden," just as the midrash tells us she was hidden by her father Ya'akov in order to prevent Esav from seeing her and wanting to wed her. Some say that Dina withheld is what led to Ya'akov's troubles, beginning with Dina's rape. But Leah, who arguably "belonged" to Esav, the older of her first cousins, wept her eyes out until they became "rakot," gentle, tender, wept in fear that she would have to marry Esav.
But why? Esav is by far a better son to his parents than Ya'akov ever was. Esav stays close to home and does what his parents want. Ya'akov leaves--true, he does what his mother Rivka privately tells him to do--but that means leaving home, lech lecha-ing, moving on, choosing public and religious duty over family responsibility.
Does Dina's brothers' action, variously described as "overkill," "terrorist-like," "heartless," "dangerous," and "vengeful," make Dina whole?
Ellen Frankel, in The Five Books of Miriam: A Woman's Commentary on the Torah, presents Dina as a Talmudic commentator. "Rav" Dina notes that "[My brothers] recognized that honor stolen can never be recouped: Hamor's proposed payment transformed rape into prostitution. The only compensation they [Shimon and Levi] would accept was vengeance. But neither act could compensate me for what I had lost."
What would? As most feminist therapists know, a rape victim does not "heal" by "forgiving" her attacker. Forgiveness as a path to wholeness is a misguided notion in cases of rape, incest or battery. A rush to forgive often means that the victim is unable or unwilling to acknowledge exactly what has happened, or that she has been harmed by it. Without such acknowledgement one cannot begin the arduous and painful work of healing. In any event, a private, psychological, individual, act of forgiveness does not constitute justice, nor can it prevent the forgiver or others from suffering a similar fate at the hands of the unjudged, unpunished rapist, his city, and his culture.
Many survivors of rape and torture say that the most lasting harm resides not only in the atrocity itself, but also in how others either dealt with it or failed to do so. Survivors are haunted by those who heard the screams but turned their backs, blamed the victim, who preached against revenge, but envisioned no justice. As Judy Herman has written: "It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement and remembering."
Please understand: The Torah and Talmud's position on rape is complicated, contradictory and, from my point of view, quite misogynistic e.g. raping a married woman is a capital crime since she is another man's "property;" but, the rape of a single, un-betrothed woman sentences her rapist to a lifetime of marriage to her unless she won't have him. He must still pay her father a monetary fine.
Therefore, what Shimon and Levi did was extraordinary both for their time, and for the geographical region. It still is today. What can possibly explain what they did?
They explain it this way: Rape is not done amongst us. "V'cayn lo ya-aseh." It is a sin, an abomination in Yisrael: "Kee nevalah B'Yisrael."
Rashi tells us that the nations of the world feared "incest," or other "sexual crimes" as a result of the Flood. I totally agree. Quite simply, the brothers feared that God might destroy the world again because of male sexual violence. They destroyed Shechem in order to defend God's honor and to protect humanity.
I do not agree with the many honorable feminists who believe that Dina's brothers ruined it for her, that she really loved Shechem, that he's a symbol of Palestinian or pagan purity. If Dina really loved Shechem, why would Shechem need to "talk to her heart," (v'yidabayer al lev hanaarah")? Shechem only did so after he "took" (va'yikach otah), slept with, (yishkav otah) and tormented or humbled (vaya-aneyhaa) her. Only after all this did Shechem's "soul cleave" to her (va'tidbak nafsho), and "he loved the young girl" (va'yeahav et hanara).
Where else do we hear the phrase: "He talked to her heart?"
In Shoftim, at a time when Israel has no king, we have another example of a man who is described with the exact same words. A concubine (pilegesh) has run away from her master/husband. Perhaps he has abused her. Maybe she just missed her father at home. In any event, this master/husband of the unnamed pilegesh also "yadabayer al lebah," he sweet talks her to leave her father's home in Bethlehem, in the territory of Yehudah.
As we know, her fate is an awful one. As they journey, night falls, and a man offers the couple hospitality for the night. A Sodom and Gomorrah-like male mob demands the man as their sexual sacrifice. The master/husband does not sacrifice himself but rather gives his pelegesh over in Givha to be gang-raped to death. Obtaining justice in her case, does not involve the destruction of pagan Shechem; it involves the near destruction of the entire tribe of Binyamin.
Just because a man says he lusts for or even "loves" a woman whom he takes by force does not mean that he really does so or that his "love-lust" will last or that the story will end well.
In Shmuel Bet, we read that Amnon desired his half sister Tamar. He asks her to sleep with him. Tamar echoes exactly what Shimon and Levi say: "This is not done in Yisrael, don't commit this abomination." Kee lo ya-aseh kayn b'Yisrael, al ta-aseh et ha'navalah hazot." She tells him to go to their father King David and ask for her hand in marriage. Instead, like Shechem, Amnon humbled, tormented, and forced Tamar to sleep with him. "Viyaaneyha v'yishcav otah." Unlike Shechem, immediately thereafter Amnon's lust turns to hate. This single act of rape, which is Tamar's undoing, has dire consequences. Avshalom, Tamar's brother, kills Amnon, David their father mourns, Avshalom foments a rebellion against King David and is himself eventually killed.
The sexual mistreatment of Tamar destroys her, King David's family, and nearly leads to David's downfall.
Perhaps we might say: In all three instances, the mistreatment of a single woman led to a major catastrophe.
None of this is surprising. God strongly disapproves of rape. It is the reason that God decided to destroy the world with a flood. Remember the language. Just as Shechem took Dina (vayikach otah), in Bereshit 6:2, the sons of God "took (vayyikhu) any woman, any daughter of man, they so chose.( Bereshit 6:2).Widespread, indiscriminate rape. Almost immediately, God states: "My spirit will not dwell within or wrestle against myself with humanity forever because man is only flesh and blood: "Lo yadun ruhi b'adam liolam b'shagam hu basar." (Bereshit 6:3).
Lo yadun ruhi... Din, judgment, law, Dina's very name reminds us that God finds rape repugnant. Rape is not only a crime against humanity; it is also a crime against God. Perhaps this is the reason that God ensures that none of the other pagan cities or tribes rise up against Ya'akov. They suffer no repercussions for their destruction of Shechem. "And they journeyed and a terror/fear of God was upon the cities that surrounded them and they did not pursue the sons of Ya'akov." Va-yisahoo v'yihee hetat elohim al ha'arim asher svevotahem v'lo radfu aharei bnai Ya'akov."
Thus, we learn that rape is forbidden. From this
we may also conclude that we are obligated to rescue, comfort and obtain
justice for a rape victim. Troublingly, Ya'akov, who suffers the loss of Yoseph
and the potential loss of Binyamin, is not seen weeping for or even
talking to Dina. She remains "hidden," her father remains
"silent." Surely, we are obliged to bring up our sons so
that they do not become rapists or bystanders, nor should our daughters
ever blame or shun a rape victim.
In Dina's story, her brothers do not blame her. They rescue her. May God grant each and every one of us the power to do likewise.
Good Shabbos.
Ismail
What a piece of work.
What shall we take from Chesler's demented exegesis?
First, let's contextualize; many readers will know that Chesler has built a cottage industry of demonizing Muslims and promoting her own toxic variety of right-wing Zionism. A woman of modest intellectual powers, she famously described the Buddhist political heroine Aung San Suu Kyi as a Muslim, regarded India as an "Arab land", and blamed Hamas for launching attacks on Israel pre-1967 (Hamas, of course, didn't exist in the '60's). Her voice is reliably found among the most extreme chorus of retro-Zionists, explaining away Israel's every outrage with an insouciant indifference to history or morals.
Chesler begins by detailing the crimes against women apparently rampant among the darkies of Algeria, Bangladesh and Darfur, yet neglects to mention Israel's unhappy place at the pinnacle of sexual trafficking. Just an oversight, I'm sure.
One must always be suspicious of an apologist for Israel compulsively reporting upon the incidence of the (admittedly awful) murderous misogyny found in some quarters of Arab or Muslim or Hindu society. Proportional to population, does Chesler imagine that more women fall to Arab patriarchy than to the Western variety? Does she think that the voice from the grave calls more loudly if the corpse resulted from fucking while unmarried than from not getting that Bud Light to her cranky sociopath of a husband quickly enough?
But what has this to do with her nominally apolitical bit of biblical explication? OK, let's get to Chesler's money shot; the story of Dina. Briefly, a woman is raped. In retribution, her brothers decimate a city, guilty and innocent alike. Moral? By not blaming their sister for her plight, Shimon and Levi demonstrate their feminist bona fides, far more evolved than the benighted wogs all around them (although I recall Deuteronomy authorizing the stoning of one's wife should the little harlot be found unintact on the wedding night). Their actions underscore their recognition that rape is especially repugnant to God, thereby illustrating their superior spiritual enlightenment. And the murdered multitudes? Naughty, that, but let's not waste our beautiful minds on such things, to quote one of Chesler's equally addled contemporaries.
Note the utility of her interpretation to Chesler's intellectually famished and ethically depraved prescriptions re the Palestinians; even the most murderous assault upon them may be pardoned since Israel only acts in self-defense and truly regrets all the collateral damage; besides, like those of Dina's brothers, Israel's actions have great spiritual import. Not simply massacres, they speak to a special relationship with the Almighty. These are the calculations of brutes.
A very sorry performance from Chesler, but sadly not atypical of her exertions.
Isaac
Are you really incapable of composing a scathing polemic against Chesler without whitewashing the distinction between overzealously and sloppily avenging an act of rape and commiting the uncommon barbarity of an honor killing? Or does your sense of honor preclude that?
One paragraph out of thirty-one mentions that distinction, and because it does so in a way that barely cites some obvious, attendant cultural geography, you rail against Chesler in a way that makes the cold, lifeless hand from Edward Said's corpse long for a surrogate finger to point at the nearest passerby amid wild accusations of chauvinism.
And in the righteous and furious flight of you and your indigenous valkyries, you apparently missed this one:
"Please understand: The Torah and Talmud's position on rape is complicated, contradictory and, from my point of view, quite misogynistic e.g. raping a married woman is a capital crime since she is another man's "property;" but, the rape of a single, un-betrothed woman sentences her rapist to a lifetime of marriage to her unless she won't have him. He must still pay her father a monetary fine."
That's some insouciant indifference to history or morals.
As you were.
Ismail
"...whitewashing the distinction between overzealously and sloppily avenging an act of rape and commiting the uncommon barbarity of an honor killing?"
First of all, congrats for descending to Cheslerian depths of moral degeneracy by describing the massacre of countless innocents as "overzealous and sloppy". Yeah, that captures the ethical significance of mass murder perfectly.
Second, I don't mean to efface the difference between civicide and honor killing at all. While moral calculations of this sort are famously troublesome, I'd guess that, if they had to, most observers would consider the wholesale slaughter of the guiltless a tad naughtier than a single honor killing.
All that bit about Said and "indigenous valkyries" is indecipherable. Please resubmit in English.
Finally, you will note that my "indifference to history or morals" comment referred to Chesler's disgusting fondness for celebrating Israeli criminality, not to her efforts at biblical interpretation.
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What really happens in this Torah portion? Shechem, a Hivite, rapes Dina. But he also avows his love for her and wants to marry her. Dina has no voice here, so we have no idea what she thinks.
Shechem's father makes an offer to Jacob, Dina's father, to essentially unite the Hivites and the Israelites through intermarriage and sharing the land. He is willing to pay whatever Jacob asks to seal the deal. A very generous offer by the standards of the time.
Jacob's sons are dead set on revenge, but pretend to agree on condition that all of the Hivite men become circumcized. Amazingly, they agree to these terms. While they are in dibilitated due to the operation, two of Jacob's sons descend on the Hivites, massacre all their men and rescue Dina. Whether Dina wants to be rescued is unknown for once again, she has no voice.
Meanwhile, the rest of Jacob's sons plunder the Hivite town, seizing all their proprety and taking all their children and wives as captives, who will then presumably be raped and/or forced into marriages with their Israelites captors. All this deception, bloodshed and rapine to protect the honor of poor silent Dina!
Jacob's reaction is one of horror. He correctly declares "You have brought trouble on me, making me odious among the inhabitants of the land."
From this story "odious" story, Chesler derives a feminist message? Apparently the fate of the Hivite women are none of her concern.
What a shonde!
Isaac
While your willingness to accuse those you disagree with of "celebrating Israeli criminality" is as predictable as the tides, I suggest you look up the word "presentist" (in a historical context) before directing phrases such as "moral degeneracy" at me. It might even exist in a few English dictionaries.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with recognizing that the bible represented a moral advance for its time, and drawing inspiration and practical lessons from that fact, while accepting that the times in which we currently live are different. To judge the morals of people from long ago using standards that they hadn't developed betrays a sense of historical illiteracy. I'd have thought such an insight would be obvious to someone who distinguishes between current Israeli acts and biblical interpretation, but perhaps not.
Sorry you didn't like the quips on Said and the rest. I suppose that's why you pretended not to understand them.
On a more philosophical note, I'd argue that honor killings are worse than committing acts of excessive brutality (is that an acceptable way to put it?) toward bystanders to a crime. While targetting civilians innocent of an act with which they are peripherally associated (but not necessary culpable) is bad, I don't see how it rises to the level of targetting and killing an actual victim of a criminal act. The latter is especially warped and represents a shifting of blame that goes above and beyond the former. To redefine the victim of a crime as the perpetrator of that same crime is not something for which I can find precedent in any moral code, and seems like an especially egregious act of cognitive and moral dissonance. But the construction of eleborate ways in which to protect one's "honor" - (a pretty outdated concept in itself) - will apparently do that.
Ismail
"...your willingness to accuse those you disagree with of "celebrating Israeli criminality"..."
No, I accuse those who celebrate Israeli criminality of celebrating Israeli criminality.
"To judge the morals of people from long ago using standards that they hadn't developed betrays a sense of historical illiteracy."
Except, I guess, when those standards comport with our own. That is, if a biblical people seemed to have acted like barbarians, why, that's only because I'm judging them by contemporary standards. But if they do something that seems to express current moral thinking, well then, clear evidence of an ethical time machine-they're behaving like 21st century people! Good for them!
Anyway, didn't Jacob's reaction, cited in the comment above, suggest that, even by the standards of the time, his sons' behavior might have been a little...ethically gamy?
"...the bible represented a moral advance for its time..."
Here your postmodern respect for the "standards of the time" seems to have vanished, replaced by a sort of normative absolutism. What exactly is a "moral advance"? To recognize something as an advance, we would need an exterior standard with reference to which we could distinguish advances from retreats. Your implicit standard is, of course, "what middle class Western members of post-industrial capitalist like to think is right". But, as your former genuflection to "standards of the time" indicates, you acknowledge the highly contingent nature of such beliefs. "Moral advance" is a more problematic notion than you seem to realize.
Also, as the previous poster noted, we don't really know what Dina wanted, but it sure suits Chesler's (and, I guess, your) purposes to make her and her brothers out to be latte-sipping east coast feminists.
Sadly, I was being entirely serious when I said that your "quips" were indecipherable. Pick a random person on the street. Show that person your "quips". If s/he claims to tease any meaning whatsoever from that tangle of words....well, s/he's lying. Nice try, but you still must rewrite.
"...(killing civilians) is bad, (but) I don't see how it rises to the level of targetting and killing an actual victim of a criminal act."
Like when Israel makes West Bankers strangers to their own land, then kills them when they resist being hemmed in further to ever-shrinking cantons? That's what you mean, right?
Gee, maybe you're right. Maybe that is worse.
Isaac
"Except, I guess, when those standards comport with our own."
Are you taking issue with Chesler here or with me?
"Here your postmodern respect for the "standards of the time" seems to have vanished, replaced by a sort of normative absolutism. What exactly is a "moral advance"? To recognize something as an advance, we would need an exterior standard with reference to which we could distinguish advances from retreats. Your implicit standard is, of course, "what middle class Western members of post-industrial capitalist like to think is right". But, as your former genuflection to "standards of the time" indicates, you acknowledge the highly contingent nature of such beliefs. "Moral advance" is a more problematic notion than you seem to realize."
Talk about incomprehensible writing, Ismail! You must think yourself very clever to couch your ideas, or lack thereof, about what constitutes a "moral advance" in some kind of ambiguous, all-purpose caveat about the entire concept being a "problematic notion". But where on earth did my statement reveal anything resembling a "normative absolutism"? I give you credit if, by this phrase, you mean to imply that arguments can be made against seeing something understood to be an advance as such. That's honestly a clever one and your point is taken, if that's what you meant. But to say that my implicit standard is ""what middle class Western members of post-industrial capitalist like to think is right" is really a straw man. I said nothing of the sort, and I disagree with that in any event. If anything, I'm inclined to disagree with what many if not most "middle class Western members of post-industrial capitalist like to think is right." And while it's unclear to me that their beliefs as a whole (if one can identify them) are contingent upon anything of import to this discussion, their beliefs on an individual basis are certainly diverse enough to warrant further clarification before inserting such a broad appeal to them here as a way to describe what you suppose it is that I think.
The "exterior standard" is the standard that existed at the time - not too hard to define.
I won't be rewriting anything. Since you're a plucky enough grammarian to have rewritten things I've stated in the past without much of a change in meaning, I don't find it a stretch to suppose that you understood what I meant above. I admit that there might have been a clumsy sense of subject-verb agreement in the dependent clause of one of those (and so what if there was?), but I find it hard to believe you would be that bitchy about my referring to Edward Said's lifeless hand in an anthropomorphic way. Can his hand not long for something over which it no longer has control? Is that what you're so perturbed about? For you to be this sensitive over bad poetry makes it easier for me to understand why do such a fantastic job inflating your sense of outrage over so many other, infinitely less trivial things - inserting puffery in places where clearer arguments would really be more helpful to everyone.
But here comes the real knee-slapper:
"Like when Israel makes West Bankers strangers to their own land, then kills them when they resist being hemmed in further to ever-shrinking cantons? That's what you mean, right?"
"Gee, maybe you're right. Maybe that is worse."
I've got to admit it takes some big, well-contoured balls to willfully confuse being considered culpable for an act that was perpetrated against you with any reason for which "Israel" kills West Bankers. If anyone is being killed by Israel solely for being a resident of the West Bank, then your drivel might make more sense. And I'm sure this happens among settlers (i.e. not "Israel" doing the killing) and sometimes through the confused and blundered actions of unsteady 18-year olds in the emotionally raucous heat of battle in the IDF (when their own lives are immediately at stake). But of course since that's what you want to believe as an all-purpose generalization, in your mind it must take on the appearance of self-evident, absolute truth - every other consideration be damned. And regardless of whether any such victims were actually evicted from anywhere in Israel. But of course, there is no such thing in your mind as a "problematic notion" when you avail yourself of the opportunity to cast Israel as the empowered agressor - and therefore 100% responsible for the existence of all evils committed between the Jordan River and the Mediterranean Sea - and everyone else as the disenfranchised victim - helpless, innocent and without the capacity to make wise, courageous or fruitful decisions. To you, anything more realistic, (and less Marxist), would be a much more problematic notion.
I sometimes think that what you fear the most is the eventuality that Palestinians might take responsibility for anything - (other than an occasional suicide bombing). I admit that this thought might scare the hell out of me too. But it's still something that will have to occur someday. Just not today, right?
George Jochnowitz
As Phyllis Chesler tells us, rape is always wrong. Whatever the faults of Levi and Simeon, rape remains wrong.
Israel is the country that had the first head of government, Golda Meir, who was neither the wife, like Sirimavo Bandaranaike, nor the daughter, like Indira Gandhi, of a previous head of government.