You're supposed to give it to the KID.

Keeps them mellow and you don't pull out ALL your hair.
(Yes, I've always been that cool -- part of the cradle to grave program, day one. Earliest photo I've got, though. Nowadays, you shoot a pic like this, CPS, jail. Fucking Nazis. Ugh.)

child protective services (with oprah in tow!) would be at her house in a matter of minutes.  

that I can just pop down to the local coffee shop for a bit of 'mama's little helper' whenever I want. Things though have changed since being a parent,  I now have to schedule that errand like all others when my angel is at the creche.  And I do sometimes find it a bit odd walking to my car with a little baggie of White Widow and seeing the Winnie the Pooh sun protectors suctioned on the back windows along with the car seat and misc. toys and empty biscuit wrappers.   

I swear.

And I happen to know quite a few stoner moms--though not nearly as many as stoner dads.

there's two schools of thought on that great stoner parent question: Do I hide it from the kids or not?

The upside of keeping it secret from the kids is that if/when they start smoking on their own, you can play games with them by pretending to be angry, and stealing their stash. The pattern I seem to notice is that in families where the parents smoke herb openly, the kids usually don't.

you rock. there are no parenting rules. each has to decide how best to raise their children. looks like youre kicking ass.

you rock. there are no parenting rules. each has to decide how best to raise their children. looks like youre kicking ass.

It's hard to kick it when I don't know who you are. As far as "kicking ass," I believe that's against the law when it comes to children. "Getting your ass kicked" would be a better way of putting it.

Hook me up with your stoner-mom friends.

I totally relate, we are completely innocent of any wrong doing! This war on casual herb use, equating it to meth or heroin, gets me torqued. Bushies everywhere, and I just want to relax a bit before bedtime. I don't get the anger, the hatred and disgust we herbalists have to endure. Let me choose how I recreate!

To the Alternadads,

I’ve been thinking about this for a few weeks now, and I want to say something.

I don’t think pot is bad. And while I don’t get stoned myself these days, I sure as hell still drink now and then. Everyone has their drug of choice. So I don’t mean to fault you for relaxing, enjoying, etc. Not at all. Pot should be legal.

But I want to question how you smoke up. Do you get stoned enough that you’d be unable to function at high speed if there were an electrical fire? When you’re stoned and the baby cries, do you go to him, or does your wife/partner/mom have to stand in for you? How does this work?

I had a baby 14 months ago, and it changed me in a lot of ways. There are a lot of things I don’t get to do that I used to do a lot. I don’t sleep in. I don’t drive without a seatbelt. I don’t eat fast food as much. I don’t take long baths. I don’t skip breakfast. Having a baby changed my life. Of course it did.

It also changed me. More than anything, I now have this amazing ability to wake up at a whimper, fully functioning and ready to roll. I can wake up 6 times in a night and still make breakfast at 7 am. I can’t believe it, but it’s true.

Now, if I get shnockered (which I would love to do more often) I lose this ability. So I don’t get drunk when I’m on duty. I drink the occasional beer or wine, but I wouldn’t drink much more than that unless my husband was staying sober, or we were leaving the kid with my mom for the night or something. Kind of like being a designated driver.

Like everything else in my life, relaxation comes second now. Which is not to say I shouldn’t get to relax, but it’s not at the top of the list.

So I want to ask if the mothers of your kids get to enjoy these same privileges. If this is an equal arrangement, and you’ve worked it out, cool. But there’s something that grates for me, something overly entitled about a man assuming he has the right to relax/enjoy his time. When in history has that really been true?

Parents don’t really have free time, and I’ve not heard any moms saying anything like this.

Could be a totally false assumption, but if you’re smoking up (or drinking, or whatev) while mom goes to bed early so she can wake up and make mashed bananas and rice cereal... or while mom runs to the grocery store, or stays alert in case baby wakes up in the night… that bugs me. No better than if you were playing Xbox while mom runs around picking up toys at the end of the day. Adolescent. Selfish.

And I say this as a woman with an awesome husband. But I’ve noticed that even on his best days, he doesn’t have that biological impulse I do… in the middle of the night… to wake at a whimper. If he were stoned, I’d never get out of changing a midnight diaper.

I mean no disrespect, but I needed to say this…

From someone who is probably not an alternamom after all.

Your comments above remind me of when we were attending a birth preparation class and the teacher asked us what 'activity or alone time' we couldn't give up during the initial period after the birth so that we could 'schedule' it in as a couple etc. My partner said tennis, and I remember thinking to myself what an asshole - he can't give up tennis for a couple months. But the truth is that the other 5 expecting fathers each had some activity they couldn't give up and needed it to be scheduled and recognized.

And of course none of the expecting Mom's had any activities that they couldn't give up.

Parenting is not about equal tasks between mothers and fathers its about roles and how we play them in our kids lives. I find that the need for everything to be 'equitable' and allocated is simply unrealistic - its against our hardwiring and natural instincts. I say this all without belittling either parents influence or importance.

At least for me, I am sure I wouldn't give up any of the mundane tasks of motherhood if Papa all of the sudden offered to take over everything. There is that primal instinct (or maybe its the control freak inside me) that won't let me. So I can bitch and complain that I do everything and almost nothing of what I potentially used too - but I know I want it this way, wouldn't change it and would probably go nutty if I had to.

I agree about the hardwiring, but I also know a LOT of moms who get frustrated and sdepressed by NOT setting boundaries and taking time for themselves, regardless of their physiological programming. It still sucks to feel your partner gets to retain their independence when you're busting your hump.  Taken to its obvious conclusion, your comment allows men to wait around for a hot dinner, a paper and a pair of slippers, while the ladies runs ragged.

 I accept that hubby will never wake up in the night like I do. Biologically that's true.

Biologically it's also true men can sow their seeds all over while moms wait 9 months to deliver children, but that doesn't make multiple wives ok in 2007.   Biologically, men have an easier time effectively raping women.  Our bodies set us up to be workhorses, and in our world we work to correct that. 

Sorry to get hyperbolic, but as women in today's world, with self-esteem affected by things like career and social life... it seems more than fine to me that we expect our men to help lighten the load. And I think that if my husband answered "pot" or "tennis" to the question above , I'd find something for myself along those lines. I'd carve out happy hour once a week with a girlfriend, or go contra dancing, or spend Sunday morning at a coffeeshop.  Even if it was sometimes hard to leave the kid.  Because for me (and we might be very different, you and I) imbalanced sacrifice leads to resentment and a weaker marriage.

In our house, my husband's music and my writing stand in for tennis and pot. The baby comes first, financial security comes second, and then we take care of our artistic lives.  So I go to writing conferences and he goes out on the road and we spell each other. I attend readings and he has practice once a week.  And I do work to make sure it stays in a kind of balance.

xoL http://jewishyirishy.com

and if I sounded as if I thought it is or should be, it was unintentional.  I was certainly not talking about serving a gourmet dinner whilst breastfeeding and ironing with your free hand.
Why wouldn't the obvious conclusion to my comment be that since we ladies are going to be getting up in the middle of the night and the shitty diaper ratio will be about 1 to every 100 I get, hubbie can pick up the slack elsewhere - have him keep the house stocked with chocolates.  Thats what my ideal world looks like.  I was not suggesting the barefoot in the kitchen scenario at all, I was simply commenting on the way it is with mommies and their babies.     
But you go girl, I would definately come to you for a pep talk! 

Not putting you down at all Laurel, you have a point. But i think its a point that applies to men, stoners or not!

I'm engaged and likely to think seriously about a family in the comming years, and my pot habit (largely similair to Neal's - when its there i get high most nights, when its not i'm not bothered) makes me think hard.

What do i say to my kids? I dont want them to smoke pot. period.

As an adolescent it made me lazy and un-motivated, got me in touch with a few unsavoury characters, and cost a lot of money! As an adult i'm responsible and in control, but what a hypocrite i would be if i continued to smoke it!

I just hope that the trend follows that of cigarettes, if the parents smoke, the children are less likely to and vice versa.

P.S. Although i will miss the art of 'skinning up', i have to get me a vaporisor!

Stu
stuartphillips [at] hotmail.com

My boyfriend and I are both college students.  We both smoke weed pretty much everyday.  We both intend on one day having a family of our own.

This was interesting to read.  While my parents -- and his -- both smoked their share of herb in the day, my parents never really talked to me about it until they knew I smoked.  I didn't get PSA's from them; instead, I got funny stories, clever jokes, and a menagerie of weed-related health/science/news articles in my email inbox.

I'm not sure how long I'll continue the habit.  Truthfully, when I think of adults still smoking marijuana, I think "Oh, God, they're stuck in their twenties.  They never grew up." and then presume they are either low-lifes without jobs or professionals with too much disposable income.  Or a celebrity.  Or something.

But you -- you're real.  And you sound relatively responsible, intelligent, and decent.  So I applaud you.  Who knew your breed of Father existed?

To Stu: Yes, get yourself a vaporizer.  They are very, very excellent.

I do not see my pot use as selfish or adolescent. I am a responsible, high-achieving mother who parents from the perspective of developing strong character and compassionate behavior in my children. I am a nursing student with a 3.7 GPA who puts work before pleasure and still manages to vaporize about 4 - 5 times a week. I am financially responsible and stable. I think it makes me a better parent because when I inhale, I am able to put all the other stuff aside that my kids don't care about (but that ultimately benefits their lifestyle) and focus on them and their development. Most cannabis users self-regulate their doseage - for instance, I don't get "stoned" but tend to achieve the same level of relaxation that a couple glasses of wine would give me. All without the calories and the hang-over the next morning. It doesn't interfere with my functioning or my relationships. It often aids in giving me a different perspective when thinking about problems. For example, when we were having problems with our four-year-old and her intense behavior, I was able to look at the situation from her perspective more readily than I would have under my "sober", more rigid outlook and find a better compromise that benefitted us all. I think responsible use of any substance is setting a better example for children than banning it or abusing it. I don't buy into that kind of extremism. The kids of parents I've known who inhale do either avoid it altogether or tend to use it responsibly. It has never made me lazy or unmotivated, probably because I have never had those vices to begin with. In truth, I probably use it because I am so hyper motivated - it provides me with a way to not take myself so seriously. We all know that folks like me are hard to be around at times :)

So you're lying to your kid.

My dad used to tell me the same thing about the breath mints he would use to stop me from smelling the alcohol.

Like it or not, you are not being there 100% for your kid and your family. Even after sundown, the parents have a responsibility to be baseline in case there is an emergency like a fire or a robbery or the kid has an asthma attack.

You seem to have a very "Heyyyy, it's copacetic dude, try it" attitude about this. I don't think it's cool to be raising your kid when you're up in smoke part of the time.

Your whole essay was an apparent attempt to rationalize parental substance use and to try and tell yourself that it's ok. It isn't, dude. It may not be super super not-ok, and any one time it's not going to be a big deal, but in aggregate, over time, it's going to have a negative effect on your kid's life. You're just not there for him 100%.

How's the kid going to feel when he gets old enough to realize that dad's been lying to him for years about all those times he was dopey and spaced out, all those times he needed something to help his breath?

Why do you have the NEED to get fucked up?

Me, I'm basically over that shit. It's not any one time, like I said, but it has an aggregate effect over the period of years.

take a bong rip and shut up

It is worth noting that the British government just published a report ranking alcohol to be the 5th most harmful drug, behind heroin/cocaine/barbituates/methadone in that order. Tobacco is #9. Cannabis is #11. The report weighed things such as potential for addiction, medical benefit, toxicity in determining order of harmful substances. No one is even thinking of outlawing alcohol, but it should be food for thought for anyone who thinks cannabis is so wrong. The science behind risk-benefit analysis should be a factor when determining drug schedules. I think times are a 'changing...

My parents both smoke dope occasionally and it hasn't had an adverse effect on me in the slightest. We (my brother and sister and I) didn't know about it when we were very young but once I was about 10 or so my parents explained it to us.

Contrary to the myth, my siblings and I haven't grown up total potheads. I've had hash brownies once or twice but never smoked (anything), my sister will have a toke of weed but never mixed with tobacco and only very rarely and as far as I know my brother hasn't even bothered to try it.

My parents left us very little to rebel against and we are all very sensible when it comes to drink and drugs because they don't have forbidden allure.

I see a lot of thought has went into this for you..I can relate...GOOD DAD!!!! We all need to hear that! I'm so glad I completed the math problem ...lol.......

I've been smoking pot for 10 years. Not every day for 10 years...but close :)
The experienced pot smoker. The one who uses it to relax, can still complete basic tasks...like saving the kids from a house fire. Honestly, you would do it so calmly and efficiently, that maybe there would be time to actually put the fire out with the fire extinguisher you bought..(because you smoke weed and get paranoid and think the house is going to light up) Maybe then even the children have learned a valuable lesson in fire extinguishing. This could be important later in their lives. Being stoned does not mean you can not wake up and change a diaper. Being stoned means by the time its the middle of the night and a diaper is in need of changing...you are not stoned any more. The man said he smokes it away from the kids and their schedules, or at least trys. In the evening while the kids have just went to bed...with clean diapers i might add...he kicks back...smokes a little weed...and watches tv. This is no different for anyone around him. To them they see someone...kicking back...watching tv. To him...his relaxed state is hightened...and the tv seems more interesting...and whatever he's watching just makes so much more sense. It is no different when the man stands up to get and drink. Walking is not staggered...getting to the fridge is done as quiet as possible due to the stoned paranoia and fear of not wanting to wake the kids. You step in all the places you know don't creak on the floor...because you have studied the floor...while doing your stoned walks to the fridge before. I have done the exact same thing for years. Got a little baked at the end of the day. One thing i noticed about mothers on the go...and many experts agree. You do not find time for yourself. I made my wife realize with a little bit of open commuinication...and "time sharing"...she could have her time too. And hey...why not spend it together. Out of all the things to complain about...smoking weed and being a parent should not be even an issue. You can't even compare the man sitting in the arm chair with an empty six pack watching hockey to the man laying on the couch stoned playing xbox.....two words...pause button. I think i'll leave by saying....the man who looks comfortable, relaxed..and enjoying his free time....isn't dead. It's all up to the individual. Parenting skills don't change upon which substance is taken in. You are the parent you are. No matter what you choose to do with your life. Marijuana helps keep people calm in troubled times. Users like having the power to relax whenever they feel like it. It's like a light switch to us. We just wish the rest of the world knew this...accepted this...and moved on. Thank you for your eyes and minds....Damien from Canada

i been "toking" for twenty years,when my boy was due 4 years ago i got rid of my plants male & female and stopped having a "stick" in the house as u well know weed has an unmistakable aroma, it certainly cant be mistaken for anything else,my parenting goes as far as a kick about at the park in the evenings during summer being in scotland i only venture outdoors in the winter when im being paid to do it, so i work 49 hours a week and i dont see as much of the boy as i would like so i try and compensate my absence by being there for him at weekends, doin and goin wherever he wants and no i dont get stoned like other posts i only have 2 or 3 spliffs late at night, helps me sleep, and i work in heavy construction so being stoned onsite is a big no no as it is scientifically proven that weed does slow down youre responses and reflexes and such which would put my life and my workmates lives at risk so i see no harm in parents having a stck when the wee ones are in bed, and all you prudes who disagree should just go back to the school of life, and maybe get one.
Nailzuk..........Glasgow..Eccose

Now, I got a prayer that'll make you theirs now
Beneath sepulchres
Raise your entrails as an offer

was the Mars Volta lyric really necessary?

~PapaZ

P.S. Rock On Alternaparentals, rock on.

My mother was (is) a hippie, she may never have gotten on the free love bandwagon but she sure as hell smoked her self to a happy place. After I was born she started up again, and uses it to this day (but now mostly for her chronic pain diseases)...and I'm ok with it now...but in High school I finally figured it out (after finding it in her closet, I was looking for a handbag we share). I was mad and hurt and I felt like it was wrong (and this from the kid who has tons of stoner friends) because she DID NOT tell me when I was younger. I was conflicted for a few months and until there was a small conflict and two ignorant friends of mine used my mom in a stupid joke that someone's mother heard about it (and called my mother) I never talked to her about it. In retrospect I understand her reasons for not telling me (she said something about DARE and not wanting me to be confused). But it still kinda stung. Now I'm ok with it but I really think that at some point parents need to talk to their kids about the difference between hardcore drugs and pot, and where it's place is in their lives... And one may ask do I smoke? no, but that's cuz it never appealed to me...though drinking is my favorite vice... cheers MJ

The whole perception of marijuana is changing publically. Keep up the good education, fellow smokers. It truly is less harmful than alcohol or cigarettes. As with any substance, moderation and maturity is necessary. Just like with alcohol, you'll see examples of abuse sometimes. That's not a criminal problem, but a health care issue. Don't hate on the people who benefit in a responsible way from moderate use. They are usually the most level-headed folks around. In our polarized society and high-stress lives, maybe we should start listening to those folks a bit more....some balance is needed.

My girl is the jumpy type, she smokes up and bounces off the walls while I just enter parallel worlds and trip on the moon. Point being is, it's up to you, if you can handle it, then do it. If you cant, go back to changing diapers.

I am a stoner Dad and it has not prevented me from doing anything regarding baby duty. I change diapers, get up at night, feed, etc and a little smoking does not prevent me from being alert and able. I think this whole thing has to do with what level you are at. If you are "used" to it or not, makes a big difference. People who just started smoking or haven't smoked on a regular basis, feel different and not as much in control as the ones who are true stoners. I also smoke to unwind after the kids go to sleep, but very often one of my kids wakes up and I have to go in there. I have no problem with this and it does not prevent me from waking up immediately in the middle of the night or waking up early in the morning. Drinking too much does, and that is a different story. By the way, my wife is the same way.

I smoke weed plenty and if there is ever anything that NEEDS to be done I will definately do it, but if it doesn't hold importance thats when I let it slide but weed never hinders my abilities to the point of non-function, people who don't smoke weed can't understand the things that happen when you get high, I usually gain alot of focus on whatever the task may be, like my mom will clean, or my dad will tinker out in the shop, or with me I usually draw or play a videogame (theres a level of high that really gets you in the zone) but it's also not as if I need to get high to be in the "zone".

Although this may be a little off from the original topic I felt I needed to express my views.

In fact I'm 17, so if I was a parent I guess that would make me less than credible when it comes to my reflections on the booj.
Now, I know I may sound like others before me who've asserted the same thing, but I don't think the booze is to buddha analogy is accurate at all. Alcohol is definitely a nervous depressant, whereas weed is not.
I think an allegory is in order to illustrate the point I'm trying to make (I'll skip the assertion-support format because I just took some huge resin hits):
When I'm on weed, my appraisal of my sensory input is different, but that doesn't mean I am incapable of determining how weighty a given incident or circumstance is. I am, though, one of those people able to hold it down in front of non-stoners (think back to eating dinner with your parents after misjudging the time to squeeze that g-bong rip in). It's like, I dance with Mary Jane, I don't sit on her shoulders. I perform well in school (even on tests - how about getting a 97 on a test I didn't study for?) while high. I admit I have on occasion driven while burnt out from a night of burnin' trees. I guess weed is like any drug in that it makes us less jaded and more appreciative of all the the things we disregard as mundane. It's kind of like amphetamine ADD medicine in that though it might not immediately make sense that it would contribute to performance and response (giving a stimulant to restless kids?), the fact that it is an atypical perspective corrects for the sensory adaptation (sensory jadedness) of repeated stimuli.
It takes the less appetizing parts of life and makes them gravy.
For example, while baked I can hear and pick out many more conversations in a classroom than I would typically be able to.
So, with all of that in mind, I don't think being high would increase my chance of responding inappropriately to a risk, such as an electrical fire.

And as for the main article, I'd like to point out that watching television instead of interacting with people (a la reading, drawing and talking about it, playing with toys, and music) actually has a negative impact on cognitive development in young children. I'm sure google would be your friend with looking that up.

-Tuck

Thats right, continue your bad habits.

How long will you hide it from your kid?
Then when he does find out that dads a stoner hes either going to be mad that you hid it from him or hes going to do it himself.
And he may not be wise enough to not drive while stoned.
So he may end up in a tree dead and youll be going
What the hell have I done?

In what other ways do you break the law and justify it by writing about it and posting it on the internet so other stoners can justify your bad bahaviour by going "yeah dude".

I hope CPS finds you.

Makes me too hungry, then I eat and eat and eat. I'm not sure I want my kids to know. Although when they are older I would rather them smoke with me first than their friends, so who knows, I may tell them one day.

Yeah, so what if he lied to his kid about smoking pot? What's he gonna do? Tell his 5 year old son he does illegal drugs? The kid's not old enough to fully understand that yes, pot is a drug, but its not something that should be a big deal and is less harmful than certain legal drugs, such as alcohol. Would you say that parents aren't doing their job when they lie to their kids about the Easter Bunny or Santa?

Okay, first off, the author of this garbage is a moron.

Paragraph 9: "It never really occurred to me to give it up just because I’d become a parent."

Paragraph 2: the doctor comes over and says, "...you've got to stop smoking this shit." Author responds, "I know...with the kid around."

Sounds like it occurred to you -- at least going by what YOU wrote a few sentences prior. But let's just forget that little continuity lapse, and focus instead on the staggering selfishness it betrays. It really had occurred to you that your habit might have a negative impact on Elijah, you just decided getting high was worth the risk. I don't think that's because you're a cool, hipster, "Alternadad". I don't even think it's because you have a substance abuse problem. I think it's because you're an asshole.

It's nice to know that weed, as far as you're concerned, improves the parenting "experience". I disagree. Weed improves the experience of a Pink Floyd concert. You are raising a human being. Does weed improve his parenting experience? Smoke another bowl man, don't worry about it.

The worst part of this piece is when you muse, "Parenting, rather than just being a natural, if challenging, byproduct of biology, had somehow become a sacred act." Charming, that you describe parenting in the same terms most people would use to describe a case of diarrhea. But Neal, nothing has really changed. To a better class of people, parenting has always been a sacred act...even more sacred than getting high.

Right on dude

I hate all of these people going on about how it makes you a bad person or parent...

I'm an 18-year-old girl. I found out some years ago that my mom smoked weed. To this day, she sometimes lights up her one-hitter after a long day at work. My brother has also become a flagrant pothead.

Personally, I don't like the smell of it. I have tried it twice, but I just didn't see the big deal.

The point is, I don't think that smoking, or hiding it from your kids, makes you a bad parent. Teenagers will more or less do what they want to do regardless of the example that their parents set. Finding out that she smoked was more surprising than anything. But if it helps her relax? I'm fine with that. No different than unwinding with a glass of wine or beer.

The only part that bothers me is that it is illegal. Period. Maybe this will change, but the time hasn't arrived yet. Do it and accept it, because spouting out health benefits, comparing its hazards to those of cigarettes, and the like do NOT make it any less illegal. (I am talking to YOU, dear brother.)

With no attempt to justify the illegal use of a "controlled substance" I would like to state that I partake in the semi regular useage of cannabis. I am also the proud parent of two and the Vice President of a wildly successful company all while expecting another child within the next few months and attending graduate school college. Granted it's an online university but suffice to say, my plate is full and I am in no sense of the stereotypical term a "stoner" by way of mainstream interpretation or representation.

My children are the motivating factor in my life, as is my wife of coarse, and if taking a few tokes after tucking the little ones in bed had any sort of negative affect on myself, my family, or my livelihood, it would certainly come to an abrupt halt. I am a fantastic father by all means and I will certainly agree with one of the responses that mentioned the aspect of the alternative approach theory that THC provides to everyday problems that arise. A fresh perspective on the same old problem is always welcome in my mind and more often than not it just takes a little slowing down and a bench warming spot for the emotions for that hidden answer to become miraculously clear.

I can honestly see no viable explanation that would justify the ignorant few that chastise others and berate them for their alternate lifestyle or various relaxation methods. It's quite obvious by reading these responses that a number of them were written by individuals that took DARE way too seriously and all the other thoroughly more expensive than effective anti-pot propaganda that has been shoved in our faces since elementary school. If you can blindly rant that I or any other smoker or "inhaler" is a bad parent because they couldn't react in case of an emergency or would sleep through a crying babies needs while you advocate liquor as an legal alternative, you really should do some research. As with anything in this world moderation is key and stay away from chemicals.

The bottom line is to love your children regardless of how bad your heartburn is after consuming that entire bag of Doritos right before bed. And raise your kids to respect diversity while successfully disregarding the pain in your forearm from applying excessive pressure on your PS2 controller the night prior. The parents that I know raise their children with love, patience and constant communication. That being said, it also goes without saying that every good parent has the job of sheltering their children from information that is inappropriate until they are old enough to successfully ingest and learn from it, quite a difference from lying I'd say.

Good article. Good feedback for the most part. As for the feminist rant, well I can't help ya.

Why can't we have this kind of adult discussion in the course of everyday politics?

And you better stop having sex with your wife, too. What if she were giving you head and the house burned down! What would you tell your son?!

Honestly, some of you guys are getting a little melodramatic about this...

Thirtysomething, two kids (5 and 6mnths), couple of tokes in the evening. Partner is the same. Beginning to worry about the damage to my lungs - a vaporizer it is!

We're good parents. Anyone that thinks otherwise is just plain wrong.

And what better way to show it than by desperately asserting it anonymously to strangers on a web site!?

craig you are being a little smart ass. that is not appropriate behavior mister! you need a time out now.

I thought you died in a tragic vaporizer accident three years ago! I missed you, Dad.

You and I both know that ;)

craig its mom not dad

I confuse you guys a lot.

honey its OK I understand. I shaved this week so it will be easier honey