All Comments by AmberPasternak
Just because my orthodox in-laws are still together doesn't mean they have a strong marriage. Or that their constant yelling and underlying anger was a good way to raise children. There's a danger in implying following one set of beliefs will lead to sparks and happiness. Many of us know this isn't true. What works for some doesn't necessarily work for others.
very brave, anonymous. there's not just one recipe for judaism. and the one recipe way of thinking is more dangerous to the future of judaism than interfaith marriages and the like. (it's alienating.) peter writes that he feels more connected to Judaism now. in my book that's a good thing.
i would rather visit in person. cemetaries are peaceful.
here in the midwest (and probably elsewhere) countless letters to the editor in the local papers remind us that america is a christian nation and those who have a problem with it should go back to wherever they came from. This time of year the letters are especially plentiful, because wherever these people go they are told "happy holidays" and not "merry christmas." one letter suggested those who don't celebrate christmas should volunteer to work that day. i would like to respond that i would if i could get my holy days off without using vacation time. just a tad sensitive about the american=christian assumption right now.
so i should go around tape recording people and posting it for proof of xenophobia? i'm not naming names of racists. i'm saying it is disturbing what people feel comfortable saying out loud in public places. and if this is what they tink is acceptable in public . . . what are they saying at home or with friends? she wouldn't have said a "group of christians beat the crap out of this guy i know."
i don't think i would knowingly patronize a fitness center, mall, or other such thing owned by a megachurch. (and i certainly wouldn't let my hypothetical children.) the place where my husband works empolys college students seasonally, and about two years ago they were mostly evangelicals. and yes, they were nice people. Nice people who thought my husband should join them in bible study when he casually mentioned he was jewish. it all boils down to the quote from Mr. Rieder. They'll welcome anyone with open arms. But their ultimate goal is conversion.
Also, I do think they should pay taxes on these side businesses. We're not talking about a little coffee shop on the corner.
last night marked my husband's first official participation in Halloween activities. He was raised in Orthodox communities, so it just wasn't done. We're new to our neighborhood and passing out candy gave us a chance to meet some more neighbors. It also put us in the running for a potential lawsuit. In a fit of passion for candy (greed? gluttony?), a boy of about 9 or 10 years came running toward our house and tripped on our uneven sidewalk. He fell onto the driveway and just stayed there. After we walked to where he was lying and gave him and his brother a handful of candy, his dad picked him and carried him to the next house. Later in the night we watched a kid trip over his own feet in the grass. His dad's response was "get off the ground."
As far as discernible costumes, we had mostly angels, ninjas, princesses, and spiderman.
I will never understand why it's a bad thing for a supposed first world country to assist its citizens with something so basic.
i'm not a vegan or even a vegetarian, but i'm not naive enough to pretend that the animals used to get milk and eggs are happily sitting in fields waiting for "a little tug on the boobie" or for someone to come take their eggs. Egg farms are atrocious. Dirty, smelly, terrible conditions for the chickens. My husband's family works with several big dairies and the cows don't see the field. Their exercise is walking from the barn to the milking parlor and back again.
I work in agriculture, so I know that not all farms are like this. If you have a chance to buy from a smaller operation, you should. But to suggest that the processes for procuring milk and eggs is humane . . . . It suggests the rather large disconnect that the family farms are always bemoaning--not enough people know where there food comes from.