Sex & Love

Size Matters: Or, Why I’m Qualified to Write a Book About Sex

When Size Matters came out a couple months ago, lots of people came up to me and asked: "Have you always wanted to write a sex book?" Then they looked at me like I was wearing a dominatrix outfit underneath … Read More

By / September 29, 2008

When Size Matters came out a couple months ago, lots of people came up to me and asked: "Have you always wanted to write a sex book?" Then they looked at me like I was wearing a dominatrix outfit underneath my tasteful J. Crew sweater. Well, the answer to that is, um, no. "Sex book co-authoress" was probably the last label I’d ever attach to myself. As my friends like to helpfully remind me, I’m not even a "dater." (No, I’m not a monk. I’m married.) But back when I was single, the whole concept of dating gave me hives. The idea of figuring out someone else’s quirks, wondering if they liked me, hoping they’d call, explaining to them why my favorite activity is staring into space while listening to Steely Dan’s "Gaucho" album…to say nothing of the sexual element…for me, it all just seemed like way too much work for too little payoff. Instead, I was a serial monogamist, one of those people who goes from relationship to relationship until she finds one that’s meant to last.

These days, I’m happily married. But am I qualified to co-author a book about the inner workings of the male anatomy? My husband would like to think I’m not. And when I embarked on this endeavor, I wasn’t too sure either. Thankfully, Size Matters is structured in a handy Q&A format, so my co-author, Dr. Fisch, answered all the nitty-gritty questions (What does clear semen mean? Why are penises so goddamn veiny?) while I got to pose the juicy questions. It ended up being a lot of fun. Friends and colleagues contributed questions, too, and together we came up with a pretty thorough representation of all those pressing worries women (and guys, too!) have always been dying to ask.

In the coming days, I’ll post some of the more popular ones here, with some background information and answers. In the meantime, if you have any nagging (and tasteful) questions, please feel free to ask. Who knows? There might be a sequel!

Kara Baskin, author of Size Matters, is guest blogging on Jewcy, and she’s here all week.  Stay tuned.