Religion & Beliefs

Sex is holy… so get ya some

It's Shabbat, and so (since I'm commanded to get naughty tonight) I'm thinking about sex.  One really amazing thing about Judaism is how it filters through (if you let it) every aspect of your life.  You aren’t expected to sit … Read More

By / December 8, 2006

It's Shabbat, and so (since I'm commanded to get naughty tonight) I'm thinking about sex. 

One really amazing thing about Judaism is how it filters through (if you let it) every aspect of your life.  You aren’t expected to sit in a room alone and pray, or abstain from the pleasures of the world.  No,  there’s no shame in enjoying good wine, eating well, making art, arguing, and yeah… GETTING IT ON!  In fact, there’s a lot of talk lately about kosher sex, about how Jews see sex, why it rocks, and why you should be having some.  There are books on the subject (And if you get tired of the rabbi's check in with Dr. Ruth), and programs you can attend, and all manner of wacky websites too. 

Of course, you should bear in mind as you read them that you’re looking for the your own deeper meaning and not a virtual spanking—unless you like that kind of thing—because a lot  of these sites are sponsored by orthodox groups that may differ from you on the particulars (I myself do not LOVE the idea of women having “unclean” days… or the prohibition on hot gay love).  But it’s also true that orthodox Jews are not the frigid hole-in-the-sheet boffers you’ve heard about, so you should take a gander at the information provided and interpret accordingly..  And remember that as a Jew, you’re allowed to argue. 

Hey, Maimonides even said (regarding anal and oral fun)  "A man may do whatever he wants with his wife. He may have intercourse with her at any time, and may kiss her on whatever limb of her body he wants. He may even engage in unnatural sex." (Mishne Torah, Hilkhot Issurei Biah 21:10)  Though maybe it's best not to know what Maimonides thought a woman could do "with" a man.

But in any case… run along now, and sanctify yourself.  And if you don’t like this stuff as a personal set of guidelines, it’s still pretty interesting as a subject.  For instance, I’m fascinated (and basically agree with) the distinction between fantasizing about Angelina Jolie (which is okay!) and fantasizing about the woman next to you on an airplane (decidedly not!).