I think you need to apologize for the lame apologies. As others have said, they seem mostly like justifications or insipid "what are you up to"'s rather than actual heartfelt apologies. Do you even know how to apologize? It's not enough to acknowledge the affront; you need to show true remorse and understanding for the pain your affront caused the other person. In other words: empathize (even just a little). I mean, really, your apology to your black friend was “Holy shit, did I really say that?!?!?!?!” Sure, that makes for a humorous blog entry, but not for a valid apology.

peace,
Laura

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