There's a reason Feldman doesn't, or won't, "affiliate Reform, Renewal, Reconstructionist, or even Conservative." It's because he has a yeshiva education. As such, he knows how intellectually dishonest and theologically distant those movements are from authentic Judaism.

How about a controversial statement like that to get everyone's panties in a bunch?

The problem with intermarriage is not "continuity" or "Jewish babies." The problem is that it goes against one of most unequivocal and rigorously enforced prohibitions in the Torah: "Don't intermarry." All the rules separating Jews from Gentiles (kosher food, kosher wine, adopting pagan customs) are designed to prevent intermarriage. God says that. Feldman says it, too.

So he went ahead and broke the rule. In a public, all-consuming and whole-life way. If Maimonides wants to equivocate, it's their right. But if they choose to side with Torah and Judaic law, who's to criticize them? By acknowledging Feldman as a graduate--specifically in their publications--they are lending tacit approval to his choice.

And even if one is sufficiently sophisticated and can separate the personal choices of one graduate from the school as a whole, what kind of marketing message does it send to include an intermarried couple in their literature? "Send your children to Maimonides. Support Maimonides. Look how our graduates may end up!"

It's an economic and religious decision to ostracize Feldman, and I think both arguments are 100% defensible. Ahavat Yisrael, in this case, must apply to personal relationships, but not institutional ones.

And Tamar, if you can't relate to 'missing' the Temple in Jerusalem, read Mishnayot Tamid, read Tikkun Chatzot, read "Woe, Jerusalem" and countless other books that may help you gain some appreciation of the magnitude of our loss.