I'm a Harvard graduate with advanced degrees, a feminist political viewpoint, and a lesbian wife. I'm "hyper-educated." I don't have soon-to-be-Rabbi Gerson's problem, as I've already found someone with whom to both have sex and spend my life. But I understand her frustration, and I do think it's an interesting dilemma--how to be sexual and "religious," how to navigate becoming a rabbi and finding a mate--a dilemma that is not one "everbody has."

Lukeford's suggestion that men who reject the author do it because they're "not that into" the future rabbi is a cheap cop-out here, one that refuses to acknowledge the continuing double-standard against women, who are expected to be either Madonna or Whore, nothing in between. Sexy girls are great... but are they marriageable?

As for the charge that "women don't like to marry down," I don't even know where to begin. And the rape comment? Basically, luke read the article, saw its criticism of a cultural phenomenon played out by men (most men are probably completely unaware of the double standard they are holding women to), freaked out, and got defensive... in a really offensive way. "After a woman passes her mid-twenties, her stock starts going down. Just look at the rape rates. Females 12-25 get raped. After that, not so much." Young women are hot; older women are not---is that your point, lukeford?

Let's hear less angry replies and more from the future rabbi. I'd join her shul any day.... how much are dues?