As an ex-Catholic lesbian Jew who at least once a week seriously thinks about suing her old school principal (a nun) to pay her therapy bills, I sympathize with Ms. Gerson's dilemma... Women should be able to have it all: Judaism, spirituality, sexuality, sexual pleasure, and someone to experience that with. Thank G-d I'm a lesbian, which I assume makes the whole dating-while-feminist thing much, much easier!