i don't like how Wertheimer makes non-Orthodox Jews seem inferior to the Orthodox. Jews should NOT be comparing and contrasting themselves to each other. yes, we have different denominations and different levels of observance. but one is not better than the other. contrary to Wertheimer's opinion, the Orthodox are by no means perfect. they have their own issues, some of which have unfortunately gone public over the past few years. i am saying this to point out that there is no such thing as a perfect Jew, even though Wertheimer seems to think there is.

i don't affiliate with one specific denomination (even though i grew up Conservative). i am able to feel comfortable in any setting, regardless of whether it's Orthodox or Reform or whatever. in addition, i utilize various teachings from each one. i may not observe Shabbat or attend shul every week, but i refuse to eat pork or shellfish and i read Jewish text and celebrate all major holidays. but Wertheimer seems to convey the message that if we're not married by age 19 and we haven't squeezed out 6 kids by the time we're 25, then we're not good Jews.

while many people blame intermarriage as the major cause of our problems, there are other factors that are just as concerning, if not more so. low birth rates have plagued Jewish women for years. genetic diseases such as Tay-Sachs are still prevalent, though not as common as they once were. and conversion rates are declining because communities are either unwelcoming or are pressuring non-Jewish spouses to convert for the sake of keeping up appearances. if i were faced with the option of remaining single for the rest of my life due to a shortage of Jewish men or marrying a non-Jew, i'd have to choose option B.