as Apter said, the problem isn't intermarriage itself. but most people can't seem to get that through their thick heads. the problem is not raising Jewish children, as well as the unwelcoming attitudes of Jewish parents/ grandparents, Rabbis, and communities towards people's choices in relationships. Jack Wertheimer, along with his other half Steve Bayme, is notorious for his negative viewpoints on the matter. i saw Steve Bayme speak at a lecture on intermarriage last year at the JCC. counteracting him was Paul Golin of the JOI (Jewish Outreach Institute) and in the middle was sociologist Bethamie Horowitz. the look on the audience's faces when Bayme spoke was clearly uncomfortable. true, many of these people were dealing with intermarriage in their families, which is hard enough. but listening to Bayme's delivery on the subject was far more difficult than what was going on in their personal lives. in fact, the majority of the audience sided with Golin's statement that the Jewish community needs to be more welcoming and that it can simultaneously encourage in-marriage and reach out to the intermarried at the same time.