Thanks for the response. Sorry if my language was a bit confusing, my "looking Jewish" comment actually was separate from the comment about Jewish dudes being weight nazis (yes, to your point it is a personal essay and as such you have the right to make that observation. Again, was probably just an issue of wording rather than your intent).

Rather, I suppose regarding identity/looks, I was stating that you presume (and probably rightfully) that because you do not look like a certain ethnic type (my guess would be of Eastern European desent) that guys would assume that you aren't Jewish. And again, maybe this is true. I suppose that my point is that anyone with the right intellectual chops would know/understand that anyone could be Jewish (or heck Muslim, Buddhist, Catholic), and that outward appearance has very little to do with that beyond our own societal misconceptions.