Have you read any of Michael Oren's essays re: the discomfort of Jews with any sort of power?  It directly relates to our insufficient responses to various issues that you've raised. He says it much better than I can, but I suggest doing a search for his essays-- he offers a few interesting explanations for this phenomenon, if you can even call it as such.

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