I can't get one single straight forward answer on this. I converted, and was sleeping with my boyfriend for about a year before this. When my conversion was completed, I thought that I should go to the mikvah, but backed out when I saw "open for brides and married women only". What's the deal with this? I'm in no way looking to get married, so I'm not supposed to have sex, ever? Every rabbi has the same answer, that you shouldn't be having premarital sex. Ok, fine, I'm not 16, I'm hitting 40 - let's be realistic. Anyone know what the answer to this is?