As a married religous woman, I HATE going to the mikvah. I wish it was abolished. My problems are not so much as men telling women what to do; it's about having a strange woman wathing me naked. I've had one mikvah lady who was so obvious about it, she just stared at me while I walked down the steps to the mikvah. I was so embarrassed and came home in the worst mood ever - no passion happened that night. To me it is extremely degrading to have some strange woman see me naked,someone who is clearly looking at my flaws and imperfections. This mitzvah would be so much more special and meaningful to me if I could have privacy while in the mikvah. But knowing someone is watching me naked makes me anxious and just want to get out of there as soon as possible.
It wouldn't suprise me if this mikvah lady was comparing our bodies. What kind of "mitzvah" is mikvah anyway?? Every month is a nightmare.