Are these dusty relics from your past...or did you buy the DVDs on Amazon?  Either way, Elijah is a lucky kid. 

Anyhoo, from my perspective, which, gosh, probably isn't All that different from Neal's, it's all about letting your kids be who they are, but also giving them options to explore.  Wrestling and cooking class?  Sounds good to me, if he enjoys them both.  I used to care for twin boys, aged 3.  One liked to wear a dress, arrange flowers, and play with my hair.  He also liked to fight dirty with his brother.  His parents let him do both (although they refereed the fighting).  I was impressed by their willingness to let their son express himself fully and naturally.