I'm curious about this because I don't hear too many discussions travel in this particular direction--like this:

Is it possible to have a good discussion about gender without adding in data about guys acting like jerks? I know that guys can act like jerks, but I think some of that comes from confusion about gender roles. I think this is a huge problem in western culture, and because of this void of productive dialogue, words like 'misogynistic' and--see, is there even a counterword for that--misopenistic?--serious void here--enter the usual conversation in about three seconds.

Anyway, I think the relationship would be closer to a discussion about Yin and Yang rather than an issue of oppression. But I never hear that conversation. So, if the poor behavior of both genders can be distilled out, how would that discussion go?