I don’t believe that those Orthodox Jews who violate laws of Negiah are being hypocrites.  Take the example of Christianity. Historically the Church has very willing to avert its gaze away from the sexual misconduct of Christians, particularly if they were kings and noblemen. Christians would tell you that we are all sinners. As sinners we often cannot help ourselves and we commit sins. A Christian of course would also tell you that the solution to this is to accept Jesus as your Savior and by doing so your sins will be forgiven. As Dennis Prager has argued there is big difference between being a hypocrite and being a sinner. A hypocrite holds himself to one standard and other people to a different one. A sinner is someone who holds himself to a standard but does not always succeed in living up to it. Truth is if we are successful at living up to our own standards than our standards probably are not worth a whole bunch.

Living up to Orthodox standards is tough and we are going to fail at many things. What we need to be able to do is on the one hand admit that these are failings, but on the other hand to recognize that we are only human and as humans we are sinners. As Jews we do not believe that Jesus can save us. We believe in the loving God of the Old Testament who will forgive anyone who is willing to ask for it.