"Does anyone know of a great way to deal with Christian holidays in a way that doesn’t feel like too much of a shout out to Jesus?"

Yep.  A movie and chinese food, or middle-eastern food, or Indian food, or any food that is from a country that is not primarily Christian.  How better to point out that not everyone in this country is of a Christian based faith than doing things that have nothing to do with Christianity? 

Another quandry...when I went the movies yesterday the place was packed with people, most of whom I'm guessing were of Christian based faiths.  I don't understand why US Christians don't do more for their own holiday, but that's their problem.

BTW...I couldn't agree with you more on the whole issue.