My
first sexual experience was exactly the same as this writer's, and I too felt
the shame of being unable to get it up in my first sexual relationship at
17.  I went two more years convinced that I was impotent, and largely
avoided going further than fooling around with other women for fear of
embarrassment. 

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Thankfully,
my next girlfriend was quite patient and after a good amount of time we
discovered that I was not impotent, but did require a LOT of physical
stimulation.

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Several
years and normal relationships later, I have a fine sex life....but even to
this day, I still probably require more physical stimulation than a 'typical'
guy.  I had always assumed this was just a random phenomenon and that I
was just a little unusual.  However, after reading this article and other
readers' comments, I realize that much of my issues have to do with how I
initially masturbated starting at age 13 ( I too humped the bed and almost
never masturbated in the traditional manner).

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It's
a shame the internet didn't exist back in the early 90's, as I would have
learned in high school how normal this phenonemon is and could have avoided two
years of intentional lack of intimacy in relationships.  

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There
are probably a lot of young men out there who assume they have psychological
issues when in reality they merely conditioned their penis in a disadvantageous
manner at a young age.  Maybe they should make masturbation lessons a
requirement in Hebrew school....