you point out the interesting situation most sex therapists are well aware of-you can condition yourself to be aroused to many things (e.g. certain clothing, parts of body, and of course physical sensations). the good news is that you can recondition your responses. i have been a sex therapist for 25 years and what you present is not all that uncommon. hopefully others will realize that there are many ways to deal with this issue in healthy ways. also we need to point out that penis-vaginal intercourse does not often lead to female orgasm so don't forget that massaging the clitoris is often helpful while having intercourse. be careful of the info you read on the internet and make sure the person hosting it is a licensed professional. interesting read and well done.